If you’re going to be a rock star, you’ve got to have swagger! Your posture, your voice, and your dress should be confident….probably a bit more confident than you actually feel. Behavioral research shows that people who display overconfidence actually succeed in multiple social situations more often than those who display ordinary or underconfidence. Attitude should be part of your attitude.
Does this mean you should act like a jerk, or be rude to everyone around you? Of course not; disrespect doesn’t really breed loyalty or affection. But for better or worse, humans tend to make decisions based on appearance. If you look and sound like you believe you’re terrific, others will believe it, too.
Don’t ever let Imposter Syndrome take you out of the game. Bradley Voytek, a neuroscientist and featured TED speaker, uses the term to describe accomplished people who feel like they don’t deserve their success.18 When you start to notice all of the beautiful and brilliant folks around you, you start to think, “I’m not so special. I’ll never be as good as all of these great people!” This happens a lot to individuals who have a few achievements under their belts and are working hard for more.
If you start to feel that way, it’s time to crank it up. Put on your best spandex, grab your black leather jacket, and walk out there like a star. Remember, odds are that the people you envy are suffering from a little bit of Imposter Syndrome, too. Swagger until you’re cured.
I used to walk down the street like I was a f****** star… I want people to walk around delusional about how great they can be – and then to fight so hard for it every day that the lie becomes the truth.
~ Lady Gaga