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Face Fear And Eat It For Breakfast, Like a Rock Star!

Rock stars make it look so easy. Stepping out onto the stage in front of thousands of adoring fans… it’s hard to believe that they are feeling anything but confidence.

Would it surprise you to know that some of the musical greats you love have had to overcome their own insecurities and face their fears in order to become who they are today?

Just like not everyone is born a brazen entrepreneur or a commanding CEO, not every rock star is born with a mic in their hand. So, what’s the difference between those who succeed, gracing the largest stages (and boardrooms) in the world, and those who never make it out of the garage?

Fear and what we do with it. We’ve all got it. But some people aren’t willing or able to move past it. Are you?

 

7 Steps to Overcoming Fear

Overcoming your fear is like a muscle. The more you work it, the better you’ll get at it. Just like decision-making. While following these steps may take you a while in the beginning, the more practice you get, the faster you’ll move through the process. Practice makes perfect, right?

  1. Accept what you’re feeling

Pretending you’re not afraid of something doesn’t fool anyone, least of whom, yourself. Whatever you’re feeling is okay. It’s there and you’ll deal with it. Plus, it shows the human side to your band and others. It makes you more real. Be transparent with your fear.

 

  1. Identify the fear

Exactly what about the situation is making you uneasy? Are you afraid you can’t hack it? Are you afraid the outcome is outside of your control? Is your fear really not fear at all and it’s more about control? Humm. Give it a name. Much like the monsters in the closet, when you give them a name (and possibly add on some KISS makeup) they’re a lot less scary.

 

  1. Breathe to center yourself

Never underestimate the power of your breath. Your breathing has the ability to work you into a panic, or the ability to bring you peace and clarity. The best part of it? The choice is entirely yours. In the beginning, you’ll want to find a quiet place to breathe. The better you get at it, the more able you’ll be to center yourself when surrounded by your team… or thousands of screaming fans. Take a deep breath (your belly should extend out as it fills with air), hold it for a few seconds, and then breathe out. Hold it for another few seconds and then repeat the process. If you’re alone, plaster a smile onto your face during this exercise. Continue until you feel your heart rate slowing and your mind becoming clearer. Similar to meditation maybe add in a mantra.

 

  1. Imagine the worst

It may sound counterintuitive, but sometimes, imagining the worst possible outcome can actually calm us down. Pretend you’re a frontman (or woman) stepping out on a big stage for the first time. You may be thinking, “I’m a no-talent joke” or “I’m going to fall flat on my face out there.” By imagining the worst, you can make light of the possibilities. Sure, you might trip. But you also might get mauled by a tiger wearing a tutu. Hey, you never know! This is your worst-case scenario. (Someone could’ve brought a tiger!). The more ridiculous you get, the easier it will be to find humor and take the edge off. You can also reason with yourself. Ask what the worst that can happen, what’s the best that and happen, and then ask what will probably happen.

 

  1. Challenge your thoughts

It’s not likely that someone brought a tiger to your debut concert. It’s also probably not likely that half of your fears will come to fruition. Examine each individual fear and then use the evidence available (past experience, your hard work, and training, your amazing team, etc.) to challenge your thoughts. It goes back to practicing. Glenn Frey of the Eagles said they never started a tour until they rehearsed their setlist one hundred times in a row perfectly. Practice equals confidence and confidence erases fear.

 

  1. Don’t try to be perfect

If you’re doing something for the first time, there’s likely to be some hiccups along the way. Embrace the learning curve and realize that mistakes aren’t something to be afraid of, but rather something to learn from. Fail fast, fail often, and fail forward. Once you understand that failure is a good thing, it to will help eradicate fear.

 

  1. Do it anyway

Yes, you may be afraid. That’s not, however, a reason not to move forward. Use fear as a GPS. Learn to thank it and thank yourself for looking out for you… and then do it anyway.

 

Facing your fears is the secret to success. It’s the difference between taking daily massive action and minimal or no action. Or worse yet the wrong action. When you embrace your fear and use it as a sign that you’re on the right path, you will reach amazing new heights. Rather than run from fear, run headfirst into it like a rock star and step out on the stage of business and life. Trust me it’s much better than failure, mediocracy, or going out of business. Look at it this way, there is less traffic or competition on the road to fear. Like they say the greater the risk the greater the reward. Now go get your ROCK ON!

Do you get paid to play? Is your company’s mission statement also your mission statement? Does it have anything to do with you having fun?  What if you added the word fun to your mission statement or your company’s vision?  Would that make a difference in your culture? Would it make a difference in how you interact with your customers or associates? Your boss? Your employees? Your family? Would it make you want to jump out of bed and go to work or go to play everyday? Think about it. From a very small infant what are you programed to do? Play! We play as a baby, we play at school, and we played in college.  Some of us a little more than others. So why wouldn’t you naturally just want to play at work? Guess what rock stars love to do? PLAY. But not just on stage! They play at home, and they play hard. But they play with a purpose. Their play is in alignment with their D Chord. They have big unreasonable DREAMS. They have Dreams or a mission statement of their company. They have a rock star mindset. Great leaders play with a purpose and lead their teams to do just that. They have a rock star mindset. That is when Opportunity Rocks. But what does that look like? It starts with a small shift in the way you think. Shift happens. Change the way you think, change the way you feel. Or in this case, change the way you think, change the way you play. To help that shift to happen here are three action items you can do.

  1. Re-write your mission or vision statement. Making it clear, laser focused, meaningful and add the words play or fun to it. If you are going to spend over 8 hours a day, 5 to 6 days a week, 50 weeks a year, and 30 to 40 years of your life doing something wouldn’t you rather have fun doing it? Refuse to grow up.
  2. Re-write your company’s mission or vision statement. Make it clear, more purposeful and work in the words- fun and play. Then take it up the ladder to whoever has the power to change it. Sell them on your idea. Do your homework first. Show them the research of how company’s productivity and employee and customer engagement goes up with companies that have a “play with a purpose” culture. Companies that have a rock star mindset.
  3. Just do it. Thank you Nike. Play your A Chord and take immediate action everyday. If your company doesn’t buy into it at first, be a rock star and break the rules. Pretend they did and just start doing it on your own. Share it with other team members and watch it spread. Excitement is contagious. That’s when the magic really happens and you drive change instead of change driving you. Marvelless Mark said, “Rock stars drive change not ride it.” Eventually someone will notice.

Maybe you’re saying, “easier said than done”, or “we are not allowed to have fun at work”. Says who? Is it a written policy? Let’s pull a Mike Rayburn and say, “What if?”. What if you could play with a purpose? What would it look like? What would you say, do and act like? Isn’t that worth a shot? If you’re dedicating such a large chunk of your life to something let’s make it fun. Research shows people learn and perform better when their having fun. If you don’t love your job, then love why you do it. Thank you Tony Robbins. Find a way to have fun.

If you don’t make sacrifices for the things you want, the things you want become the sacrifices. I challenge you to start thinking like a rock star. Look for ways to play with a purpose at work and at home. This stuff works great for relationships and families too.

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“Marvelless” Mark Kamp is a Keynote Entertainer/Keynote Speaker, Author, Husband, Father, and child of God. He works with organizations who want their teams to achieve rock star results. He does this in a fun and engaging way using the success secrets of rock stars and the right amount of entertainment.