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Face Fear And Eat It For Breakfast, Like a Rock Star!

Rock stars make it look so easy. Stepping out onto the stage in front of thousands of adoring fans… it’s hard to believe that they are feeling anything but confidence.

Would it surprise you to know that some of the musical greats you love have had to overcome their own insecurities and face their fears in order to become who they are today?

Just like not everyone is born a brazen entrepreneur or a commanding CEO, not every rock star is born with a mic in their hand. So, what’s the difference between those who succeed, gracing the largest stages (and boardrooms) in the world, and those who never make it out of the garage?

Fear and what we do with it. We’ve all got it. But some people aren’t willing or able to move past it. Are you?

 

7 Steps to Overcoming Fear

Overcoming your fear is like a muscle. The more you work it, the better you’ll get at it. Just like decision-making. While following these steps may take you a while in the beginning, the more practice you get, the faster you’ll move through the process. Practice makes perfect, right?

  1. Accept what you’re feeling

Pretending you’re not afraid of something doesn’t fool anyone, least of whom, yourself. Whatever you’re feeling is okay. It’s there and you’ll deal with it. Plus, it shows the human side to your band and others. It makes you more real. Be transparent with your fear.

 

  1. Identify the fear

Exactly what about the situation is making you uneasy? Are you afraid you can’t hack it? Are you afraid the outcome is outside of your control? Is your fear really not fear at all and it’s more about control? Humm. Give it a name. Much like the monsters in the closet, when you give them a name (and possibly add on some KISS makeup) they’re a lot less scary.

 

  1. Breathe to center yourself

Never underestimate the power of your breath. Your breathing has the ability to work you into a panic, or the ability to bring you peace and clarity. The best part of it? The choice is entirely yours. In the beginning, you’ll want to find a quiet place to breathe. The better you get at it, the more able you’ll be to center yourself when surrounded by your team… or thousands of screaming fans. Take a deep breath (your belly should extend out as it fills with air), hold it for a few seconds, and then breathe out. Hold it for another few seconds and then repeat the process. If you’re alone, plaster a smile onto your face during this exercise. Continue until you feel your heart rate slowing and your mind becoming clearer. Similar to meditation maybe add in a mantra.

 

  1. Imagine the worst

It may sound counterintuitive, but sometimes, imagining the worst possible outcome can actually calm us down. Pretend you’re a frontman (or woman) stepping out on a big stage for the first time. You may be thinking, “I’m a no-talent joke” or “I’m going to fall flat on my face out there.” By imagining the worst, you can make light of the possibilities. Sure, you might trip. But you also might get mauled by a tiger wearing a tutu. Hey, you never know! This is your worst-case scenario. (Someone could’ve brought a tiger!). The more ridiculous you get, the easier it will be to find humor and take the edge off. You can also reason with yourself. Ask what the worst that can happen, what’s the best that and happen, and then ask what will probably happen.

 

  1. Challenge your thoughts

It’s not likely that someone brought a tiger to your debut concert. It’s also probably not likely that half of your fears will come to fruition. Examine each individual fear and then use the evidence available (past experience, your hard work, and training, your amazing team, etc.) to challenge your thoughts. It goes back to practicing. Glenn Frey of the Eagles said they never started a tour until they rehearsed their setlist one hundred times in a row perfectly. Practice equals confidence and confidence erases fear.

 

  1. Don’t try to be perfect

If you’re doing something for the first time, there’s likely to be some hiccups along the way. Embrace the learning curve and realize that mistakes aren’t something to be afraid of, but rather something to learn from. Fail fast, fail often, and fail forward. Once you understand that failure is a good thing, it to will help eradicate fear.

 

  1. Do it anyway

Yes, you may be afraid. That’s not, however, a reason not to move forward. Use fear as a GPS. Learn to thank it and thank yourself for looking out for you… and then do it anyway.

 

Facing your fears is the secret to success. It’s the difference between taking daily massive action and minimal or no action. Or worse yet the wrong action. When you embrace your fear and use it as a sign that you’re on the right path, you will reach amazing new heights. Rather than run from fear, run headfirst into it like a rock star and step out on the stage of business and life. Trust me it’s much better than failure, mediocracy, or going out of business. Look at it this way, there is less traffic or competition on the road to fear. Like they say the greater the risk the greater the reward. Now go get your ROCK ON!

Do you get paid to play? Is your company’s mission statement also your mission statement? Does it have anything to do with you having fun?  What if you added the word fun to your mission statement or your company’s vision?  Would that make a difference in your culture? Would it make a difference in how you interact with your customers or associates? Your boss? Your employees? Your family? Would it make you want to jump out of bed and go to work or go to play everyday? Think about it. From a very small infant what are you programed to do? Play! We play as a baby, we play at school, and we played in college.  Some of us a little more than others. So why wouldn’t you naturally just want to play at work? Guess what rock stars love to do? PLAY. But not just on stage! They play at home, and they play hard. But they play with a purpose. Their play is in alignment with their D Chord. They have big unreasonable DREAMS. They have Dreams or a mission statement of their company. They have a rock star mindset. Great leaders play with a purpose and lead their teams to do just that. They have a rock star mindset. That is when Opportunity Rocks. But what does that look like? It starts with a small shift in the way you think. Shift happens. Change the way you think, change the way you feel. Or in this case, change the way you think, change the way you play. To help that shift to happen here are three action items you can do.

  1. Re-write your mission or vision statement. Making it clear, laser focused, meaningful and add the words play or fun to it. If you are going to spend over 8 hours a day, 5 to 6 days a week, 50 weeks a year, and 30 to 40 years of your life doing something wouldn’t you rather have fun doing it? Refuse to grow up.
  2. Re-write your company’s mission or vision statement. Make it clear, more purposeful and work in the words- fun and play. Then take it up the ladder to whoever has the power to change it. Sell them on your idea. Do your homework first. Show them the research of how company’s productivity and employee and customer engagement goes up with companies that have a “play with a purpose” culture. Companies that have a rock star mindset.
  3. Just do it. Thank you Nike. Play your A Chord and take immediate action everyday. If your company doesn’t buy into it at first, be a rock star and break the rules. Pretend they did and just start doing it on your own. Share it with other team members and watch it spread. Excitement is contagious. That’s when the magic really happens and you drive change instead of change driving you. Marvelless Mark said, “Rock stars drive change not ride it.” Eventually someone will notice.

Maybe you’re saying, “easier said than done”, or “we are not allowed to have fun at work”. Says who? Is it a written policy? Let’s pull a Mike Rayburn and say, “What if?”. What if you could play with a purpose? What would it look like? What would you say, do and act like? Isn’t that worth a shot? If you’re dedicating such a large chunk of your life to something let’s make it fun. Research shows people learn and perform better when their having fun. If you don’t love your job, then love why you do it. Thank you Tony Robbins. Find a way to have fun.

If you don’t make sacrifices for the things you want, the things you want become the sacrifices. I challenge you to start thinking like a rock star. Look for ways to play with a purpose at work and at home. This stuff works great for relationships and families too.

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“Marvelless” Mark Kamp is a Keynote Entertainer/Keynote Speaker, Author, Husband, Father, and child of God. He works with organizations who want their teams to achieve rock star results. He does this in a fun and engaging way using the success secrets of rock stars and the right amount of entertainment.

How will jury duty help your business? Who loves jury duty? What’s not to love, right? Just think of the networking and interesting people you will meet.  It’s fun, convenient, and the pay is great. NOT!

Most people would not agree. In fact, when you mention jury duty, it never seems to be a positive conversation; typically, someone has a great story of how they got out of their responsibility. I received my call for duty a few weeks ago. At first, I was tempted to postpone, cancel, blow off or even get a Dr’s note. Then, the little voice inside told me to suck it up and embrace it. Man, was I glad I did! I got up early that morning and picked out some conservative clothes, (which is difficult for me to do) grabbed my computer, some snacks and headed to the courthouse. After parking and walking a few blocks toward the entrance, I began to see the amazing characteristics of people heading to the same place as me. (Seems like the lawyers all shop at the same store) As I entered the building and stood in line at the metal detector, someone had forgotten to take their metal objects out of their pockets, lines began to form for the elevators and counter where traffic violations are paid. Once inside the holding room with the other potential jurors, someone who looked important gave us a speech, played a video, showed us how to check in, and how to not make the judge angry. Then they said something and it really struck a nerve with me. “It’s your constitutional right to a trial. It’s one of the privileges of being an American. With those rights comes responsibility.” Boom, Mic Drop!! I thought about that for a second, and then realized it’s that way with just about everything. The constitution allows us to do just about anything. To work for someone, start our own business, get married, be a husband or a wife, to be a father or a mother. To be as rich and successful as we want to be. It is one of the privileges of being an American and with those rights comes responsibility.

So most of us will do just about anything to protect our family, our marriage, freedom of speech, freedom of religion, our business, and to a certain degree even the business of someone we work for. So why are we so down and out about jury duty? Why do some make up bogus or lame excuses to get out of it? Some of the examples I heard-  One guy said he had to pick up his wife from the airport. One said he was going to propose that day. One said she didn’t like people, and one even said they don’t agree with the law.

So what does jury duty have to do with business? What a great band inside the courthouse. One of my chapters of Opportunity Rocks compares your business or team to a band, how important it is for your band to have the same dream or vision, to surround yourself with “like minded” people, create and drive the change and not be afraid to take the necessary actions to get things done.

Even as a keynote speaker in Las Vegas or anywhere in the world that I may speak there are three key elements to keeping the band running smoothly. First, put the band first. Steven Tyler of Aerosmith said, “As good as I am, I am nothing without my band.” He knew the band came first.  Second, honor everyone’s unique abilities and contributions.  It doesn’t matter if you’re the judge who is the drummer setting the tone and pace for the rest to follow, or the attorneys who would serve as the rhythm section to start to make the song come together, or the bailiff and court reporters who would be the bass players. The bass players don’t always get noticed but the song would be pretty lame without it. 

Don’t forget the voice or lead singer, who would be the county court clerk briefing the audience of fans and sending out the summons.  The problem is this great band is trying to give someone a fair trial, but the fans are not always loyal. By fans I mean the citizens called to serve. In order for the system to work, we all have to be on board and committed.  Just like in business! Your company or team is only as good as the weakest link. So if you want to make your sales goals, deliver a quality product, or offer the best customer service, then you need to make sure your team is engaged, committed, and motivated. As a motivational speaker, I believe you cannot manufacture motivation, but you can unleash it. That’s the secret of being a business rock star, and that’s what we help teams and businesses do. Find and unleash their inner rock star. It’s your duty, right, and obligation to play full out in everything you do. Even jury duty in the courtroom, or the jury duty that you sometimes have to do as a business owner or employee. You need to make your uncomfortable zone, your comfort zone. When you get better your teams will become better. When your teams get better your customers get better and more loyal. Just like we have to protect our judicial system so that everyone who is entitled to a fair trial gets one, so must we protect our business, our family’s and our rights. So the next time you get a jury duty summons in the mail, ask yourself, would I want to work for someone or have someone working for me that is willing to make up lame excuses or lie? Would I want them working for me or with me? What you do in your personal life reflects your business life, and vice versa. A true rock star gives his all no matter what, and if something gets in the way, the show doesn’t stop, you find a way to keep on going.

My name is Marvelless Mark and I approve this message. Please like and share this post but more importantly stop complaining and own it.

Marvelless Mark Kamp is a keynote entertainer who works with companies who want killer openings and closing keynotes using the business secrets of rock stars.

 

 

Rock on,

The Business Rockstar is an Author, International Keynote Speaker, and Customer & Engagement Guru

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Marvelless Mark is always discovering new ways to make business travel easier. As a global and local Las Vegas motivational speaker and entertainer, I’ve logged more than two million miles. I know that I can’t do anything about long lines, shrinking seats, or delayed flights, but I recently asked my frequent traveler friends to share their best travel tips with me, so I could share them with you. The results—these 10 travel tips—are my “best of the best” ideas that can make your future trips a bit easier.

  1. If you are a CostCo member, you can book a rental car through Costcotravel.com and save 25% or more, and you’re often eligible for additional coupons or upgrades. Plus, Costco’s search tool lets users compare prices from most major rental car companies, and then automatically adds in all applicable coupons, codes, and discounts.
  2. Bring your own healthy snacks with you. Packing snacks such as raisins, nuts, granola, trail mix, banana chips, protein bars, or fresh fruit is a great way to eat healthy and save money on the road.
  3. If your travel requires a layover, visit the airport’s website in advance or on your mobile device to know what food, drink, and shopping options are available.
  4. Purchasing bottled water in an airport can be expensive. Pack an empty bottle in your carry-on then fill it with water on the other side of the security.
  5. With the help of hot water from an in-room coffeemaker, instant oatmeal becomes a money-saving, healthy breakfast.
  6. Instead of paying $20 a day for the hotel internet, consider using your phone’s personal hotspot. Even if you have to increase your network data plan, it will likely cost less than one day of the hotel’s internet charge.
  7. Before showering, hang your clothes in the bathroom and let the steam from the hot water get the wrinkles out.
  8. Pack Epsom salt to give your feet a relaxing soak at the end of a long day.
  9. If you need extra room to spread out, let your hotel room’s ironing board double as a storage surface for your belongings.
  10. Pack your own power strip and extension cord to ensure you’ll have plenty of outlets within reach.

AND HERE’S A BONUS TIP for anyone who is an emcee, keynote speaker, corporate entertainer, or other people who spend a lot of time speaking in front of audiences: always bring a bag of cough drops backstage and share them generously, especially with other speakers. Anyone can get a dry, scratchy throat, and it usually happens at the worst time. When that happens, a simple cough drop can save your day or someone else’s.